As I mentioned in my previous post?a?few months ago, my family and I moved to a new state, New York to be exact. ?Big move, no really it was a HUGE move. We had a newborn baby and an almost 2-year-old!?Unfortunately?though, even before we moved here, we knew that my husband?wouldn?t?be able to live with us full time?because his job was in New Jersey. We knew that I?d be living alone with two little kids during the week. He was only able to come home late Thursday night, like midnight, and would have to leave again Sunday afternoon to get back to his job site.
We talked about it plenty before it actually happened, but I don?t think I was ever really prepared for it, until he left us that first Sunday night to drive back to NJ for work.
Overwhelmed, ha, I?m not even sure that?s the word to use. I had NO idea what to expect. I was in a new area, a new house, all by myself with two little ones. I seriously cried every Sunday when my husband kissed us goodbye and pulled away. I?d think, how am I going to do this on my own? This isn?t possible? There?s just no way.
Let me tell you now, after experiencing it for 4 months, that anything is possible. ?I?ve done things I never thought I?d be able to do. ?Thankfully, it?s over now and he?s found a job where we live.
I can tell you there were times when I wanted to hide in my bedroom closet, lock the doors and just scream or cry. I can?t tell you how many times I would just sit on the couch and watch my two little girls play or just cuddle with them instead of unpacking.
See, the first week or two was pretty hard. You have to find balance. You have to find out what works and what doesn?t. You have to make your schedule completely?about your child now.?It was like becoming a mom for the first time again. I had to re-learn how to make bath time work ? giving two kids a bath alone. I had to learn how to be able to put my youngest to bed, who I breastfeed, with a toddler running around being a toddler! I used to bathe the girls separately, but it was much easier to bathe them together.?There?s no ?me time? until they are both in their beds snoring away.
I can?t tell you that I wasn?t lonely at all either. After the girls both went to bed, it was quiet and lonely.?Thankfully?I had friends that were able to come over and hang out with me some nights after the girls would go to bed. Other nights I?d just go right up to bed since I didn?t have my husband to wind down with after a long day. I lived for Thursday nights when I would have his?companionship?again after the girls were sleeping.
I also am a big scaredy cat at 31 years old, so I had to learn the bumps, thumps and noises my house makes without my husband here to tell me I was crazy!
Like I said, I was very lucky to have friends and family close by to keep us company and to keep me sane. I?m so thankful that my husband was able to find a job here and this is all behind us. I feel like I can do anything now, I feel like this time we spent apart made me a better parent and made us a stronger couple. If it?s something you have?encountered? feel free to leave a comment and share your story. If it?s?something?you may be encountering soon, feel free to leave a comment also! I?m sure I have some helpful advice for you!
I wish I could say, ?this is how you do it, do these things and you?ll be fine just like I was,? but I can?t, you naturally just learn how to do it. You get into a routine, and it just happens and works.
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Source: http://www.wivesunscripted.com/2012/10/17/home-alone-with-a-toddler-and-baby/
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